My Gradual Love Story

During this valentine's week, Yahoo lifestyle was running these real life love stories which were about common people like us. While reading one of the story, I felt like writing mine too...so I wrote and e-mailed it to the ID provided. But, I guess I was late! Better luck for the next year:-)

My Gradual Love story goes something along these lines....

I met my now husband, then boy friend Chethan for the first time in the year 1998 in Bangalore. I had a few of my school friends studying in the same college as him. They would all hang out in the same gang. Mine was a girls college and we cudnt even bunk as the same lecturers would take sessions in the morning & afternoon. So, If I wanted to bunk I would go to their college & stay till evening so much so that they would tease me saying they will get me an ID card. :-) We were just friends for quite a long time. but I had a soft spot for him from the bginning. He finished college and moved on to a job. He was my friend's senior by a year. Ours was a gradual love story. I was studying my final year diploma in the year 2001. He would ask me to call him everyday in my lunch break and talk for 2 calls. We did not have mobiles in those days. He would come home to meet me once in a while or we would just talk over the phone (landline). After he left college is when we became more close (he would run away from me when he was in college as his friends would tease us saying a good pair. As he is a little vertically challenged & I am more so :-) Finally, I had guessed about his feelings for me & made him confess. Once that was done, I was confused whether i should accept it or just be friends. I was not sure what the future held for us. My parents were very conservative (especially my mother).We were seeing each other for about 2 years when I had to tell my parents about him. There was a huge row at my place. they did not agree to get us married and we were yet to settle down in our professional life. I was very adamant that if & when I marry it will be to him and no one else.

After innumerous emotional blackmails and rows at home my parents had no choice but to agree to get us married. And we finally tied the knot on the 27th of May 2004. He was my pillar of strength throughout this period (the strong & the silent types) He still is...We are nearing our 8th anniversay and have an angel of our own who is going to be 6 this year. I joke with him saying now that we have crossed our 7 year itch, it is like starting afresh with the first year!!

We are going to celebrate our 8th Anniversay in May!

Relationships! & Friendship!

The other day I had some errands to run so went to my friend's place and picked her up as well and off we went.
We had given some clothes for alteration and the tailor said he will take about 1/2 an hour to do them. We were tired after office so we did not want to roam around and finally we sat down in a quite corner and started talking to kill the time.
I was telling her about some problem at home I was trying to deal with but did not know how to put an end to it... I guess that is why god made a relationship called friendship because there are some things in the world and in your life that you cannot discuss with your parents, siblings, in-laws & even husband and kids but the same thing you can discuss with a friend without any hesitation and knowing for sure that even if they cannot advice you on it atleast you will have a listening ear.
There are so many relationships in our life that we complicate with our own hands but friendship is the most simple and uncomplicated of all...
I know! Iknow! we are still far away from celebrating friendship day but what the heck! I wanted to write about it...so I WROTE!
1. Parents: I know they will be there for you & they are the ones who brought you into this world and all that but at some point you cant convey whatever you want to them. They do not understand the way we think, act & conduct ourselves. That is probably the generation gap speaking.
2. Siblings: yes! if you do not have a gap of too many years but still you cant tell them everything!
3. In-laws: forget it! they say their daughters & daughter in law are the same but I can tell you the fine line b/n the 2.
4. Hubby dearest: even studies & research have come up with a few things that you cannot share with your man however attached you both are ;-)!! LOL
5. Kids: phew!! you cant make them listen in the first place what will they understand?? :-)

So, all the other relations like umpteen numbers of aunts, uncles & a cousins are there...cousins too help in the same way your sibling does!

But finally it is the friends you fall back on! they are the ones who cushion your fall & they are the ones that are always there when you want them. they are there even when you accuse them of breathing down your neck!

Thank you lord for the wonderful friends you made me choose!!!